三件让你受益匪浅的坏毛病？ “it is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”----william shakespeare some things are often deemed to be bad. some things are often deemed to be good. here are three things that may sound bad but can actually be good for you. three things that i have learned to make better use of or strengthen a bit since that would help me out. think about them. then add and subtract as you see useful for your life and situation right now while using your own common sense. 1. selfishness. selfishness is rarely seen as something positive. the word may fill your head with images of greedy and soulless montgomery burns-like people. however, personal development is in a way pretty selfish. you are trying to make yourself and your life better. but the thing is that by focusing on helping yourself first you can become stronger and help others in a better way too. if you just focus on other people and not on yourself then you risk burning out. or people may take advantage of you as you set no limits or boundaries. you become the “nice guy/girl” who is always out there to help people but think little about yourself which in the long run can become pretty unhealthy. and selfishness and helping others often go hand in hand anyway. i did for example improve my health and increased my energy levels last year. this also gave me the extra energy to work on an free ebook - that will, if everything goes as planned, be up on the blog very soon - besides writing the usual articles. so that is a win-win. 2. lazyness. being lazy isn't all that bad. being lazy about stuff that is irrelevant or not that important will help you quite a bit to free up time and minimize unnecessary stress. getting the most stuff done isn't the best option. getting the most important things done will improve your life and world the most. so, as i wrote a few weeks ago, set limits for checking inboxes, twitter etc. use your laziness and come up with ideas on how to make things as simple as you can in your daily life. find the smartest path instead of thinking there is some reward for doing things in the most roundabout and complicated way. this also makes it easier to really relax when you relax and work in focused way when you are working. be smart and balance life and take advantage of laziness instead of making things into an unnecessarily big struggle. 3. ruthlessness. adding a bit of ruthlessness has, in just the right amount, been very helpful for me. it allows me to cut out the unnecessary instead of wimping around and trying to everything to fit in somehow. if you have problems with putting a stop to something or making decisions then a little bit more ruthlessness may be what you need. because at some point you have to make harder decisions and cut out stuff you may not want to. otherwise you won't be able to find the time and energy you need. this may mean to skip some social engagements or cutting down on the tv-shows you follow from 10 hours a week to 2 hours a week. not always fun, but you have to be the boss of your life. you have to make the decisions and say no both to yourself and to others if necessary. “世间事无谓好与坏，一念之间而已。”—— 威廉.莎士比亚 有些事总是被人们称为坏事，而有的又被认为是好事。这里有三件事可能听起来挺糟其实却对你有好处。自从我发现它们可以帮我排忧解难时，我就学会了如何利用它们或是稍微加强对它们的运用。好好想想，依照常识看看如何能够让它们也为你所用。 1.自私自利 自私自利向来不受欢迎。听到这个词你满脑子里一定是贪婪，无情的蒙哥马利.伯恩斯似的人物形象。但是，个人发展本来就是相当自私的。你努力要让自己和生活更完美。如果你能关注自我首先让自己强大起来，就能更好的帮助他人。如果你只是关心他人而忽略了自身，无疑只会让自己“油尽灯枯”了。要不然就是因为毫无底线被人占尽便宜。你成了“老好人”，总是毫不利己，专门为人，这样的行为长此以往是很不健康的。而且利己和利人常常是密不可分的。比如，我去年改善了健康状况，增强了体能。这让我有更多的精力去写免费的电子书。如果一切按照计划行事，这本书很快就会和其他文章一样发布在我的部落格上。如此一来，我和读者就成了双赢。 2.懒惰 懒惰也没那么糟。有时对那些不相关或者不重要的事情偷偷懒，反倒可以帮你腾出时间，减少不必要的压力。老是把什么事都做完也不见得是最佳选择。只是完成重要的事情才能最好的改善你的生活和世界。所以，正如我几周前所写，限制自己查邮箱和twitter的次数。就懒一下，想想怎样能让你每天的生活越简单越好。选择聪明的办法而不是因为惦记着有什么好处而走最迂回最复杂的路。这样也可以让你在休息的时候好好休息，工作的时候好好工作。聪明点，保持生活的天平，尽情偷懒吧，不要把什么事都变成无谓的痛苦挣扎。 3.无情 学会适当的硬起心肠对我非常有用。它能让我甩掉不需要的东西，而不是唯唯诺诺什么都舍不得处理。如果你没办法停止某事或者做决定，一点冷酷无情就是你所需要的。因为有时你就是要做艰难的选择来剔除一些你可能不想要的东西。要不然你就没有足够的时间和精力。这可能意味着你要错过一些社交活动，或是把你每周追电视的时间从10小时减少到2小时。虽然这样做并不好玩，但是你需要成为自己生活的主宰。你必须要做出决定，在必要的时候对自己和他人说“不”。 转摘自海词快乐英语，供朋友们分享查看更多
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