好的英语是“读”出来的？ 改变人生的100个方法（7 61. get some coaching. get someone that can stand back and watch you objectively. ask someone you admire to watch you and coach you for a while. let them tell you want they see. it's a courageous thing for you to do and it will always lead to growth. 62. leave home. you do things that are holding you back because it feels like home. when you do these things, you do them because that's what your comfortable doing so you make yourself right at home doing them. as they say, there's no place like home. home can an ugly place if it's not kept up and consciously made beautiful. home can be a dark, damp, prison. smelling for bad habits and laziness. but we think we're safe there. however when we inspect the wore out house more closely, the safety we think we're experiencing is pure self limitation. you might want to identify the habits that keeps you trapped. identify what you decided is your final personality. understand that it might be a hasty construction built only to keep you safe from risk and growth. once you done that, you can leave home. you can get the blue prints out and create a home you really want. 63. perform rituals. ask you listen, you might notice that action is always the key. doing something always leads to results. an object in motion stays in motion. one great ritual for activating the brain is walking. when you have problems in your life that seems too overwhelming but use the ritual of walking and take the problem out for a long, long walk. time and time again during the course of the walk something comes out of nowhere. some idea for an action that would solve the problem. try to make a ritual for yourself. anything that will act as an self starter. rituals will start an action before you feel like getting into the action. rituals always override your build in laziness. they always get you motivated in a predictable, controllable way. 64. start your life over. if you catch yourself thinking your too old to start something you want to do please recognize that your not listening to the pessimistic voice inside of you. it's the voice of a liar. remind the voice of all the people that started their lives over again at any age they wanted to. don't listen to the voice inside, you can start your life over right now. 65. keep all your promises. one way to motivate yourself is to keep some usual promise. to go to someone i cared about either personally or professionally and make a real big promise to them. something that takes all the creativity and effort i had to make it happen. although some of these promises i made weren't kept, it's not really an intelligent way to self-motivate. instead make commitments to other people, but know that these commitments are ones you know you can keep. but to motivate yourself, replace promising to others to promising and setting goals to yourself. the power goals is that they can be outrageous and huge. they can be really wild possibility thinking. without setting large goals internally, you will just end up living a life of what you think you have to do. 66. give some luck away. you cannot live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you. there is one way to make sure you can't get repaid and that's to do something for someone who won't know who did it. you can create luck in your life by giving it away. 67. draw your universe. you can create your own goal directed universe by using the 4 circle goal setting discussed earlier. label the 1st circle "life long dream." circle 2 label "my year." 3rd circle "my month." circle 4 "my day." each circle if done successfully guarantees the success of the next circle. if you hit your daily goal everyday, your monthly goal will be hit. and similar for month to year, year to life. the system itself is not the motivator. it is your understanding of your responsibility to be a creative planet that's what the motivator is. 68. get up a game. competition is great for motivation. competition teaches a valuable lesson that no matter how good you think you are, there's always someone else better than you. that's the lesson in humility that everybody needs. and it teaches you by trying to beat somebody else, you reach more inside of you. trying to beat somebody else puts the game by into life. if it is done optimistically it benefits both competitors. it teaches them sportsmanship and it gives you a beach mark for measuring you own growth. so in your life, let the games begin. have fun winning and losing. when someone has insulted you or under rated you, don't just get even, get better. use your victory, not to hurt them, but to create you. 69. try your mother down. we first learn how to explain to world to ourselves from our parents, more especially our mothers. this can be a disaster if the child has a pessimistic mother. the disaster can only be temporary. optimism can be learned at any age. it's not self motivating to blame mom if your a pessimists. blaming others is never self motivating because it strengthens the belief that your life is being influenced by forces outside of yourself. love your mom. but change yourself. 70. face the sun. "when you face the sun, the shadows always fall behind you" - helen keller. this is her way of recommending optimistic thinking. when you look at what you face grows in your life, what you ignore falls behind you. if you turn and only look at the shadows, they become your life.查看更多
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